Of all the fetishes around the world, financial domination (findom) is perhaps the most financially rewarding. Men sending money and expensive gifts to women, asking for next to nothing in return. What more can you ask for? They just want to submit and relinquish control to a dominant woman.

Sounds like easy money, right? Not really.

Being a financial online dominatrix (findomme) is not as easy as calling a random guy a loser and getting free shoes. That’s not how it works. It takes more effort than that to be a successful findomme.

What is Findom?

Findom, also known as money slavery, is a fetish for people who want to be controlled in exchange for money. In a findom relationship, the male pays a woman to control him. The woman may hurl insults at the man or blackmail him. This type of relationship often happens online, without the couple seeing each other in person.

Males are usually the submissive. They’re often called money slaves, pay pigs, or human ATMs because findommes can get as much money as they want from these subs. As someone succinctly puts it, it’s “BDSM for millionaires”.

But why would men easily relinquish their hard-earned money to a woman they’ve only met online?

Some experts believe that these men have low self-esteem. They can’t handle humiliation, rejection, and loneliness in today’s fast-paced society. But when they transfer money to their findomme, they enter a zone where they’re free from all their worries. As a result, they become aroused. In their minds, they’re breaking free from this cash-obsessed modern society. And who can blame them for wanting that?

How to Get into Financial Domination

Being a financial dominatrix is not as easy as it looks. But it’s not rocket science either. Most findommes follow a straightforward manner of conducting themselves.

This simple guide will help you become a successful findomme.

1. Establish an online presence

Findom mostly happens online. If you want to be a financial dominatrix, you’ll need to have a strong online presence. Create a profile on as many social media networks and findom websites as you can. Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are excellent platforms for building a fanbase and spreading information.

In fact, there’s a whole community for findommes on Twitter. But be warned. Most social media platforms, including Facebook and Instagram, have a long-standing battle with adult content. They don’t allow sexually explicit content and any form of nudity. Violating this rule may get your post censored or deleted. You may even get banned.

As an alternative, you can create your own blogs where you can post your clips and photos. This will help you attract more submissives.

2. Know what hashtags to use

Knowing the right hashtags will make your social media profile more discoverable. Hashtags like #cashmaster, #sugarbaby, and #findom will get you noticed right away. But asking for a #paypig or #humanatm will let potential financiers how serious you are.

3. Find the best findom site

There are plenty of financial dominatrix websites. You can join as many as you want. Some require a small amount to get you verified, while others provide free verification. But they take a part of your earnings once you become a verified model.

If you don’t want to join a findom site, you can always find your one submissive. But you won’t have the protection such websites provide. That means you’ll have to verify your sub and accept payment yourself.

4. Have a persona and a look that goes with it

Most findommes have a persona. It would be wise if you also create one for yourself. But whatever persona you choose, whether that’s “cashmistress” or “the goddess”, it has to evoke superiority. You also have to look the part. Make sure that you embrace the look of your chosen persona.

There’s no standard findomme look, but most of them rarely smile. And if they do, it’s one of mystery. As if they’re contemplating hurting their money slave. Keep that in mind when creating the look of your character.

5. Find a loyal submissive

Finding a submissive as a findomme is not the same as finding a customer for camgirl private shows.

You cannot blindly make any random person your submissive without knowing anything about him first. This may sound easy. But it takes time and effort to get to know someone. This will help you distinguish between time wasters and honest slaves. Ignore the time wasters. Those who really want to be your submissive will come to you.

These pay pigs want to be cared for and crave attention from you. If you don’t spend time interacting with them, you’ll lose a lot of genuine and honest submissives.

6. Know what they want

Financial domination is about verbal abuse as a fetish. But that doesn’t mean all submissives are the same. Each one of them has their own reasons for taking part in this kink. Some want a good friend to free them from their financial responsibilities. If that’s the case, offering them a little friendship won’t hurt.

But if your sub wants to receive aggressive abuse from you, give it to him. If he wants to pay for your shopping, clean your house, and kiss your feet, let him do that.

Being a financial dominatrix isn’t as cold and impersonal as it looks. To understand your sub’s needs, you need to dig a little deeper. The longer you give him what he wants, the more he will be loyal to you.

7. Be careful where you receive your money

Most findom sites have their own payment gateway, providing you some privacy and protection from scammers. But they take a significant portion of your total income. If you want to avoid the fees, you can look for your sub outside these sites. But you’ll have to receive payment yourself. There are plenty of safe payment channels for adult performers. But whatever you do, do not accept payment via direct bank transfer or PayPal.

Bank deposits can compromise your privacy. PayPal, on the other hand, has a strict policy against adult transactions. They might close your account without notice, even if you have thousands of dollars in it.

8. Start your work

You can start with your work as a findomme once you’ve secured a submissive. Yes, let’s call it your work because that’s what it is. Everything you do from this point on is work, whether that’s bossing or controlling him.

Before you start your work, drill this into your mind. You are his mistress. Be strict and make your sub loyal to you and only you. Be the boss. Never let him take over control.

Your money slave only wants to take care of you financially. Let him do that.